D. Socrates’ First Speech (237 – 241)

1 Leave a comment on paragraph 1 1 SOCRATES: Come to me, O you clear-voiced Muses, whether you are called so because of the quality of your song or from the musical people of Liguria, “come, take up my burden” in telling the tale that this fine fellow forces upon me so that his companion may now seem to him even more clever than he did before:

2 Leave a comment on paragraph 2 0 There once was a boy, a youth rather, and he was very beautiful, and had very many lovers. One of them was wily and had persuaded him that he was not in love, though he loved the lad no less than the others. And once in pressing his suit to him, he tried to persuade him that he ought to give his favors to a man who did not love him rather than to one who did. And this is what he said:

3 Leave a comment on paragraph 3 0 “If you wish to reach a good decision on any topic, my boy, there is only one way to begin: You must know what the decision is about, or else you are bound to miss your target altogether. Ordinary people cannot see that they do not know the true nature of a particular subject, so they proceed as if they did; and because they do not work out an agreement at the start of the inquiry, they wind up as you would expect – in conflict with themselves and each other. Now you and I had better not let this happen to us, since we criticize it in others. Because you and I are about to discuss whether a boy should make friends with a man who loves him rather than with one who does not, we should agree on defining what love is and what effects it has. Then we can look back and refer to that as we try to find out whether to expect benefit or harm from love. Now, as everyone plainly knows, love is some kind of desire; but we also know that even men who are not in love have a desire for what is beautiful. So how shall we distinguish between a man who is in love and one who is not? We must realize that each of us is ruled by two principles which we follow wherever they lead: one is our inborn desire for pleasures, the other is our acquired judgment that pursues what is best. Sometimes these two are in agreement; but there are times when they quarrel inside us, and then sometimes one of them gains control, sometimes the other. Now when judgment is in control and leads us by reasoning toward what is best, that sort of self-control is called ‘being in your right mind’; but when desire (238) takes command in us and drags us without reasoning toward pleasure, then its command is known as ‘outrageousness’. Now outrageousness has as many names as the forms it can take, and these are quite diverse. Whichever form stands out in a particular case gives its name to the person who has it – and that is not a pretty name to be called, not worth earning at all. If it is desire for food that overpowers a person’s reasoning about what is best and suppresses his other desires, it is called gluttony and it gives him the name of a glutton, while if it is desire for drink that plays the tyrant and leads the man in that direction, we all know what name we’ll call him then! And now it should be clear how to describe someone appropriately in the other cases: call the man by that name – sister to these others – that derives from the sister of these desires that controls him at the time. As for the desire that has led us to say all this, it should be obvious already, but I suppose things said are always better understood than things unsaid: The unreasoning desire that overpowers a person’s considered impulse to do right and is driven to take pleasure in beauty, its force reinforced by its kindred desires for beauty in human bodies – this desire, all-conquering in its forceful drive, takes its name from the word for force (rhome) and is called eros.”

4 Leave a comment on paragraph 4 0 There, Phaedrus my friend, don’t you think, as I do, that I’m in the grip of something divine?

5 Leave a comment on paragraph 5 0 PHAEDRUS: This is certainly an unusual flow of words for you, Socrates.

6 Leave a comment on paragraph 6 1 SOCRATES: Then be quiet and listen. There’s something really divine about this place, so don’t be surprised if I’m quite taken by the Nymphs’ madness as I go on with the speech. I’m on the edge of speaking in dithyrambs 
as it is.

7 Leave a comment on paragraph 7 0 PHAEDRUS: Very true!

8 Leave a comment on paragraph 8 0 SOCRATES: Yes, and you’re the cause of it. But hear me out; the attack may yet be prevented. That, however, is up to the god; what we must do is face the boy again in the speech:

9 Leave a comment on paragraph 9 0 “All right then, my brave friend, now we have a definition for the subject
of our decision; now we have said what it really is; so let us keep that in view as we complete our discussion. What benefit or harm is likely to come from the lover or the non-lover to the boy who gives him favors? It
is surely necessary that a man who is ruled by desire and is a slave to pleasure will turn his boy into whatever is most pleasing to himself. Now 
a sick man takes pleasure in anything that does not resist him, but sees (239) anyone who is equal or superior to him as an enemy. That is why a lover will not willingly put up with a boyfriend who is his equal or superior, but is always working to make the boy he loves weaker and inferior to himself. Now, the ignorant man is inferior to the wise one, the coward to the brave, the ineffective speaker to the trained orator, the slow-witted to the quick. By necessity, a lover will be delighted to find all these mental defects and more, whether acquired or innate in his boy; and if he does not, he will have to supply them or else lose the pleasure of the moment. The necessary consequence is that he will be jealous and keep the boy away from the good company of anyone who would make a better man of him; and that will cause him a great deal of harm, especially if he keeps him away from what would most improve his mind – and that is, in fact, divine philosophy, from which it is necessary for a lover to keep his boy a great distance away, out of fear the boy will eventually come to look down on him. He will have to invent other ways, too, of keeping the boy in total ignorance and so in total dependence on himself. That way the
 boy will give his lover the most pleasure, though the harm to himself will be severe. So it will not be of any use to your intellectual development to have as your mentor and companion a man who is in love.

10 Leave a comment on paragraph 10 0 “Now let’s turn to your physical development. If a man is bound by necessity to chase pleasure at the expense of the good, what sort of shape will he want you to be in? How will he train you, if he is in charge? You will see that what he wants is someone who is soft, not muscular, and not trained in full sunlight but in dappled shade – someone who has never worked out like a man, never touched hard, sweaty exercise. Instead, he
 goes for a boy who has known only a soft unmanly style of life, who makes himself pretty with cosmetics because he has no natural color at all. There is no point in going on with this description: it is perfectly obvious what other sorts of behavior follow from this. We can take up our next topic after drawing all this to a head: the sort of body a lover wants in his boy is one that will give confidence to the enemy in a war or other great crisis while causing alarm to friends and even to his lovers. Enough of that; the point is obvious.

11 Leave a comment on paragraph 11 0 “Our next topic is the benefit or harm to your possessions that will come from a lover’s care and company. Everyone knows the answer, especially a lover: His first wish will be for a boy who has lost his dearest, kindliest and godliest possessions-his mother and father and other close relatives. He would be happy to see the boy deprived of them, since he would (240) expect them either to block him from the sweet pleasure of the boy’s company or to criticize him severely for taking it. What is more, a lover would think any money or other wealth the boy owns would only make him harder to snare and, once snared, harder to handle. It follows by absolute necessity that wealth in a boyfriend will cause his lover to envy him, while his poverty will be a delight. Furthermore, he will wish for the boy to stay wifeless, childless, and homeless for as long as possible, since that’s how long he desires to go on plucking his sweet fruit.

12 Leave a comment on paragraph 12 0 “There are other troubles in life, of course, but some divinity has mixed
most of them with a dash of immediate pleasure. A flatterer, for example, may be an awful beast and a dreadful nuisance, but nature makes flattery rather pleasant by mixing in a little culture with its words. So it is with a mistress – for all the harm we accuse her of causing – and with many other creatures of that character, and their callings: at least they are delightful company for a day. But besides being harmful to his boyfriend, a lover is simply disgusting to spend the day with. ‘Youth delights youth,’ as the
old proverb runs – because, I suppose, friendship grows from similarity,
as boys of the same age go after the same pleasures. But you can even
have too much of people your own age. Besides, as they say, it is miserable
for anyone to be forced into anything by necessity – and this (to say nothing
of the age difference) is most true for a boy with his lover. The older man clings to the younger day and night, never willing to leave him, driven by necessity and goaded on by the sting that gives him pleasure every
time he sees, hears, touches, or perceives his boy in any way at all, so that
he follows him around like a servant, with pleasure.

13 Leave a comment on paragraph 13 0 “As for the boy, however, what comfort or pleasure will the lover give
to him during all the time they spend together? Won’t it be disgusting in
the extreme to see the face of that older man who’s lost his looks? And everything that goes with that face – why, it is a misery even to hear them mentioned, let alone actually handle them, as you would constantly be forced to do! To be watched and guarded suspiciously all the time, with everyone! To hear praise of yourself that is out of place and excessive!
And then to be falsely accused – which is unbearable when the man is sober and not only unbearable but positively shameful when he is drunk
and lays into you with a pack of wild barefaced insults!

14 Leave a comment on paragraph 14 0 “While he is still in love he is harmful and disgusting, but after his love fades he breaks his trust with you for the future, in spite of all the promises
he has made with all those oaths and entreaties which just barely kept (241) you in a relationship that was troublesome at the time, in hope of future benefits. So, then, by the time he should pay up, he has made a change
and installed a new ruling government in himself: right-minded reason
in place of the madness of love. The boy does not even realize that his lover is a different man. He insists on his reward for past favors and reminds him of what they had done and said before – as if he were still talking to the same man! The lover, however, is so ashamed that he does
not dare tell the boy how much he has changed or that there is no way,
now that he is in his right mind and under control again, that he can stand
by the promises he had sworn to uphold when he was under that old mindless regime. He is afraid that if he acted as he had before he would
turn out the same and revert to his old self. So now he is a refugee, fleeing
from those old promises on which he must default by necessity; he, the former lover, has to switch roles and flee, since the coin has fallen the
other way, while the boy must chase after him, angry and cursing. All along he has been completely unaware that he should never have given his favors to a man who was in love-and who therefore had by necessity lost his mind. He should much rather have done it for a man who was not in love and had his wits about him. Otherwise it follows necessarily that he’d be giving himself to a man who is deceitful, irritable, jealous, disgusting, harmful to his property, harmful to his physical fitness, and absolutely devastating to the cultivation of his soul, which truly is, and will always be, the most valuable thing to gods and men.

15 Leave a comment on paragraph 15 0 ”These are the points you should bear in mind, my boy. You should know that the friendship of a lover arises without any good will at all. No, like food, its purpose is to sate hunger. ‘Do wolves love lambs? That’s 
how lovers befriend a boy!'”

16 Leave a comment on paragraph 16 0 That’s it, Phaedrus. You won’t hear another word from me, and you’ll
 have to accept this as the end of the speech.

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